If you were to ask me what is peer pressure to me, i would not be able to give u the exact answer, why ? Because i don’t even know if I had ever face peer pressure, so how can I describe peer pressure if I am not even sure about what it is.

Still remember during Form3 till Form5 time, whenever teacher discuss about a “karangan” that got to do with social problem (drugs, skip school, vandalism, gangsterism etc), there would always have peer pressure as one of the fact. At that time I was not really convince that it was a good point, but i still put it down on every essay because i don’t want to lose free mark haha. Why wasn’t I convinced that peer pressure is a good point ? Well maybe it is because i have never face it and i think it was just an excuse from those people that are doing the wrong thing.

Why did I suddenly create a post on this ? It is because I am now starting to see what peer pressure really is and realize how it could affect a person. This is not because I have experience it lately or something, but it is through my observation on people around me that are being affected by peer pressure. Many of the people i know started smoking, and I don’t really understand why at first, but now I am starting that it is due to peer pressure. Even children as young as 12 years old face peer pressure, still remember the case of a 12 year old student killed herself after getting her UPSR result. And the book “Hope Xtreme” shows that most teen and young adult engage in premarital sex is because of peer pressure.

Last night one of my friend told me that he is having pressure before getting his result. I then ask him why ? And he told me that many people (family, friends, teacher) are all having high expectation on him. When i heard that I was thinking “WTF ?? How could they give you pressure ??”. Then I ask him how they pressure you ? He then answer “People like you guys la, keep saying that i sure get good result.” I then reply saying “we were just saying that for fun”. Well to us it would be just for fun, without realizing that it is a serious case for him and without realizing we are the cause of his pressure. However it was from that moment that I finally found out what peer pressure really means. It is actually just a better word for seeking approval and acceptance from others and the society.

And because of wanting to be approve and accept by their peer, people that are facing so call “peer pressure” are actually facing pressure that are created by their own and not of their peer. I would prefer to call it “self pressure” for they are worrying about things that are not really important So what if people doesn’t accept you the way you are ? So what if you do not fulfill the expectation of other ? So what if people reject you just because you dun please them (smoke) ? So what if you doesn’t do bad things that others do and being left out? So what ?!!???!?!?!!?!??

It is actually useless worrying about those question, for those people that doesn’t accept you for who you are, you should know that they are NOT your real friend, and it doesn’t really matter if you are not accepted by people that doesn’t treat you as REAL FRIEND. It would be even better if they leave you out for friends like that would only seek you when you have something for them and they are the leecher, and they will leave you whenever you are no more beneficial toward them.

So why even bother????? Being who you are would be the best way to seek and identify real friends and people that cares about you. And when people want you to be who you doesn’t like, you could easily know that they are not a genuine friend, for genuine friend like you for who you are, they wouldn’t force you to do things you doesn’t like and they will not encourage you to do bad things.

I am not saying that I am perfect, for Matthew 7:3-4 read “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?” Well maybe I am facing some kind of peer pressure without me myself noticing, so for those who see that plank in my eye, please kindly take it out of my eye so i would know how to overcome it and become more of myself.

P.s : No offense to those who are facing this kind of peer pressure. My purpose of this pose is to help and encourage those that are facing this kind of problem to see how worthless it is to be worrying about something not worth worrying about.

Added A song that is relevant to this pos, enjoy: